A lot of brides get a little carried away planning their weddings. A lot of pressure is placed on your wedding day and it’s easy to get caught up in that and forget that your marriage and lifetime together after the ceremony are what really matter. As a result, a lot of grooms feel left out of the wedding planning – or they try to dodge out of it to make their lives easier! Here are some tips to get your man involved with your wedding.
What are his interests?
If your husband to be doesn’t have much of an eye for aesthetics, it’s not much use expecting him to get excited about floral displays. Think about what he enjoys and what he’s good at, and decide what tasks he could do based on that. Maybe he’s a foodie – in that case, ask him to narrow down your list of caterers or wedding cake makers. Maybe he loves music, in which case he could pick a wedding band or make a playlist for you to dance to all night at your reception. Maybe he’d rather make sure that the cocktails on the day are to his taste. No matter what his skills are, there’s something he’ll enjoy doing for your big day.
Go Wedding Cake Tasting With Him
This is a task that you will both love. Enough said.
Customize Your Ceremony
Make sure that your ceremony suits both of your tastes. If he’s an avowed atheist and you’re more religious, remember that it might be hard for him to connect with a church ceremony and that your big day should reflect both of your tastes. Try to write your own vows and remember that your guests will appreciate a few moments of laughter during the ceremony! You could also go for custom wedding rings – knowing that the ring you’ll be wearing for the rest of your life is one of a kind will make the moment he slips it onto your finger even more special. If there are words or dates that are important to you, you could get them engraved on the inside of the ring as your own special secret with each other.
Get Him To Talk To His Guests
It sounds simple but a lot of people assume that because you’re the woman, all wedding talk goes through you. This is definitely not the case. Not only will the constant buzzing of your phone stress you out, but there’s no reason that you should be responsible for any issues within his family. If his great aunt once removed is upset that her granddaughter isn’t a flower girl, get him to mediate and calm the situation down. You don’t have to do all the work here. He should also be the one to ensure that his best man’s speech doesn’t get too filthy.
Most of all, remember that your big day is about both of you, and the love that you share together. It’s easy to get overwhelmed with the stress of wedding planning. If he’s there to help you out and to make sure it runs as smoothly as possible, you’ll know you’ve picked the right groom.