How to be a good plus one at a wedding when you only know one person – your date!

Getting invited to a wedding is an exciting time!

It’s not as stressful as being in the wedding party, you know you’re in for a night full of laughs (maybe tears too) and it’s a chance to be a part of someone’s wedding day that they’ve spent months planning.

But what if you’re the plus one to a wedding and you don’t know any one at the wedding? That’s okay too! Sure you might feel out of place for a bit but everyone’s there for the same reason. Here’s how to be a good plus one at a wedding when you only know your date!

Dress the part

This goes without saying (unless the wedding is the exception to the rule) but don’t wear white and dress the way the couple requests on the invitation.

You don’t want to stand out in the worst way because you didn’t check what the dress code was. It’s a small thing to check but it’s the difference between looking and feeling great, and wanting to change the minute you arrive.

Everything is better in moderation

Liquid courage is one thing, but don’t get too wild.

You might feel the urge to toss back a few drinks so you can find it easier to meet new people but that can become dangerous. An open bar is great fun if you go about it the right way so make sure to not go overboard or everyone will remember you, but for the wrong reasons.

Hit the dance floor

The dance floor is the place to be at most weddings so that’s where you need to be!

It’s a great way to have fun and not have to worry about knowing who’s who during the Cha-Cha Slide. And since you don’t know anyone, you don’t have to worry about whether your dance skills are top-notch, just let loose!

Take it easy with the pictures

I’m not saying don’t be in any pictures but I am saying please don’t hog the disposable or Polaroid cameras, and certainly not the photo booth.

Think of it this way: on your wedding day do you want to have a whole bunch of pictures of a girl you don’t know? It may seem a little harsh but you have to think of the couple too!

The Name Game

Please learn names.

I know it doesn’t seem like a lot and you might be thinking it’s common sense but this is so important! Being able to say congrats to the couple and knowing their name will also make them feel good about inviting someone they didn’t know.

A wedding is a personal event, so you should do your best to make it feel that way.

Get friendly

Small talk will happen, but don’t let it just end there!

Get to know the people you’re sitting with, the wedding party (when they’re not too busy), and the other guests at the party. There’s a chance there are other guests that might be in the same position as you too and are looking to make friends.

After all, your date might want to go visit friends and sure you can tag along but don’t be afraid to hang out solo for a bit either.

The gift

Buying a gift for someone you don’t know is tricky but chances are your date knows what’s up.

They might have even bought a gift already too if they know the couple. If not, that’s what wedding registries are for! And if they don’t have a registry? Ask other guests (or get your date to), keep it neutral, or focus on a gift for the home like a wine basket to get delivered after their honeymoon. That’s a thoughtful gift that will be a nice treat too.


At the end of the day, this is a wedding and it’s a celebration of another couple.

You should try your best to make sure they enjoy their day, maybe not firsthand but by making sure nothing goes wrong on your end. It’s about them! You can handle a night of happy strangers and it will probably end up being a great time for you as well.

The thing is, besides a few potentially awkward meetings and some small talk, being a plus one at a wedding where you don’t know the happy couple is the same as being a plus one where you do! You just have to enjoy yourself and be happy to be a part of someone else’s special day, even if you’re meeting them for the first time.

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